A moment with God.

Riding to the airport to pick up my aunt, looking out the window this is what I see. I had to rush look for a camera  since I could not find my personal camera I had to result to my blackberry curve. But a camera on my blackberry I must say the quality of the photo taken is remarkable. Just look at the contrast and the lighting. It's perfect. Kismet; it was meant to be. And I swear I saw God right at this moment. The warm breeze flowing threw my short short pixie hair cut and the rays of the sun that was setting kissing my face. It was a beautiful moment. A moment with God.

Lil' Divas of the Month

                               *Gabby is the one dressed like Snow White, such a cute lil' disney princess she is.




A special Happy Birthday shoutout to a lil'divas member. Gabby! My little cousin who turned 7 years old today. Happy Birthday Cheesey Feet I love you.

Bucket List 2010-2011

So there are alot of things I want to get done from the rest of this year to next. I decided to make a bucket list. List all the things I want to accomplish or try. I mean seriously because life is so short and our time here on earth is never promised. I always say that and will continue to say that. Despite lifes trials and tribulations there is always sunshine after the storm. I refuse to speak negative out into the universe only positive. Life should be enjoyed as much as possible. Spending my vacation here with my family in Florida has helped me to realize the importance of building a relationship with them. Family is important, they are my backbone. Being over has also helped me to realize to stop stressing so much. Your always going to have an issue in life, your always going to have bills, your always going to have a moment where things seem tough but you got to smile, let go and let God and enjoy life. 

So here below I create my Bucket List.

1. excercise every other day early morning
2. make sure to have a balanced breakfast
3. lose a total of 40 pounds and keep it off
4. write at least 3 blog entries every week
5. try to eat talapia fish *gags* lol
6. start a scrapbook
7. write a book
8. go a whole day with out saying "oh em gee"
9. re-do my bedroom
10. purchase a new laptop
11. every week purchase a new M.A.C product and write a review
12. read 20 books
13. read the entire bible
14. practice my spanish
15. host a charity ball 
16. be in a theater show
17. begin Revolution Ladies Night again
18. weekend getaway trip
19. learn to cook a live lobster (o_0)
20. learn to dance the hustle
21. finish my web-based girls organization
22. finish my clothing line launch it
23. take dance classes
24. finish my Associates Degree in Human Services
25. take family portraits
26. do a random act of kindness every day
27. donate clothes to The Salvation Army
28. Food Drive
29. Help the Elderly
30. Start my own garden
31. Volunteer at a Hospital
32. go on another cruise
33. go camping
34. apologize to someone I may have hurt
35. forgive those who have wronged me
36. more prayer time
37. get over my fear of the dark
38. try to help someones wish come true
39. go to the beach at night and watch the sunrise
40. get my permit/liscense
 

 -Eventually I will continue to add more on my list with time

What is your Bucket List?

Four Different Types of Abuse

                                      HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE

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As I have shared several times depending on how comfortable I feel, I am a survivor (not a victim) of abuse.  To simply place or identify myself as a victim I am giving my attacker the upper-hand and power of my life. I am a Revolutionary Lady a member of Divas in Charge member.  I take control of my life, I control my destiny. I am a survivor of sexual, emotional and physical abuse. Many times the first thing people ask if it was by my father. And I answer "Hell to the No!" because my father was/is a fantastic man. Never did he mistreat me at one point in my life, I owe him everything. Everything he has done has been for his family, he is a self-less man that puts his children and wife first (before God). But I will say it was done by a family member, someone my family knew and by an ex boyfriend. I can be bitter and angry every time I look back and resent men as well as life. But....I do not. I went threw that for a reason. And I strongly and truely believe deep down in my heart it was to help other girls/women cope and get threw their situations. Its one thing to sit down and speak with a therapist , personally I don't always feel it helps. I mean do you really think they have gone threw what you went threw and have all that wisdom? Wisdom is having knowledge and life experience. Not everyone has life experience. But since I have gone threw it I can better relate to those currently dealing with abuse and trying to over come it.  

Abuse does not discriminate against anyone; race,color of your skin, age, sexual preference, religion, political views etc. Anyone can be a target.

There are FOUR different types of Abuse.

1. Neglect
2. Physical Abuse
3. Sexual Abuse
4. Emotional Abuse 

• Neglect-Is the most common and frequent case of abuse that is often seen.  Some research claims children are more likely to be neglected if they're poor because parents are preoccupied with survival – but wealthy families definitely can and do neglect their kids. Neglect occurs when parents or guardians don't provide food, shelter, safety, supervision, clothes, education, attention, or medical treatment – often it's about what they don't do. This is an abusive relationship.

• Physical abuse-can be the easiest of all four types of abuse to spot because the clues can be obvious when someone hits, slaps, beats, burns, kicks, or stabs you. However, there may not be evidence when someone grabs your arm, shakes you, or pushes you around – but that's definitely physical abuse. Abusive relationships can be easy to recognize.

• Sexual abuse-is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. This includes taking pictures you for sexual purposes, asking you to touch someone else's private parts, and making sexual references to your body. Being forced to touch or have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend against your will is sexual abuse. Abusive relationships can make you feel ashamed.

•  Emotional abuse-is when someone threatens or humiliates you. This includes calling you names, putting you down, insulting you, or breaking your things. Control is a huge part of emotional abuse and involves chronic anger, jealousy, accusations, and distrust. This type of abuse is the hardest to spot because the injuries aren't physical or immediately visible. Emotional abuse can be mistaken for passionate or intense love. Abusive relationships don't always involve physical violence.

11 warning signs of emotional abuse:

1. Constant phone calls, text-messages, e-mails, IMs, etc. to check up on you (harrassment)
2. Extreme jealousy when you talk to or spend time with other people
3. Name-calling or putting you down, either when you're alone or with other people.
4. Behavior that you have to apologize or make excuses for.
5. Statements like, "I can't live without you. If you leave me, I'll kill myself."
6. You feel depressed, anxious, and unhappy in your relationship.
7. You're scared to upset or make your partner angry.
8. You've seen your partner hurt or talk down to other people.
9. You're down on yourself, or even hate yourself, especially when you're together.
10. You lie about the bruises or cuts you have.
11. You don't spend as much time with your friends, and you feel isolated.

Read more at Suite101: 4 Different Types of Abuse: How to Recognize Abusive Relationships http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/recognizing_four_types_of_abuse#ixzz0txcn8HYx

    Abuse is never okay, there is no excuse for it what so ever. Do not blame yourself. People have choices and are in control of their own actions. So to tell yourself that it is your fault he/she is abusing you please get that out of your head now. It is not. there are other methods that can be used to deal with anger issues. I used to blame myself. And come up with as many excuses as possible to justify his aggression. If you are in this situation or know someone in this situation. Staying quiet and not doing anything about it is the worst crime. Because the question that pops up is "What if" or "If I had only..." You do not want to wait until it is too late. You can not erase what has been done. So it is better to act now, risking the person hating you than to risk either your life or a friends life. Like in the NYC Transit Subways "See Something, Say Something". You are never alone to, just remember that. 

Links to read about Abuse

http://abuse.suite101.com/article.cfm/the-different-types-of-abuse

http://abuse.suite101.com/article.cfm/signs_of_an_abusive_relationship

http://teen-health.suite101.com/article.cfm/warning-signs-that-a-daughter-has-an-abusive-boyfriend

(State Central Register) at 1-800-342-3720 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting   1-800-342-3720

This link provides everything you need to know:

http://www.mjbovo.com/AbuseLinks.htm

Choices

We all come to a point in our lives when we are confronted with a situation. A situation that requires us to make choices. Something that I was taught and taught the children I work with in return. Life is all about making choices. Commonly as humans we make the mistake in being impulsive, making a decision with out putting further thought into it. Eventually the fate of our decision may be something measuring of good or of bad. I am sure we can all say we have made some pretty bad choices, some pretty hard choices, some pretty easy choices and the list can go on. A choice can be extremely difficult, it can either make or break something or someone. But the beauty of being presented with choices is that we have the freedom, we have the freewill to choose and to make a choice. Wouldn't it be horrible to have someone control everything for us, to control our mind frame, ways of thinking and decision making? Choices, they can be good they can be bad. But regardless of what the choice is , it will leave a great impact in our lives. But if I can give you a word of advice, from my experience's in life, it is best to think before you act. Think before you speak, think before you make an irrational decision. Do not be quick to be impulsive, it never has a positive result.
-HEAD DIVA
Cynthia

I love polishing my nails

EOS lipbalm x3

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So on July 6th I let to North Carolina w/ my 15 year old cousin to see my sister and then head out to Florida with them to celebrate my nephews 1st birthday over in Port St. Lucie FL. While my cousin Amanda and I were at the airport we stumbled upon this beauty shop at JFK airport. Now my cousins and I are fanatics when it comes to lipgloss. Like seriously that is something we waste alot of money on. It's more of a NEED than a WANT for me. I'm sorry but I can not deal with crusty looking lips. That is not attractive to me at all. So browsing threw the shelves I came upon this odd looking lipbalm. It looked interesting plus it just caught my eye. Never really seen a lip balm that looked like this. So she and I purchased it. And let me tell you, It was worth the $3.49. I love the way it applys smoothly on my lips. It does not leave a greasy sticky surface. I don't need to blot my lips. Nope none of that. I urge you to go out and purchase it. They sell these at walgreens. I am making sure to go and pick up all flavors. Try them and let me know what you think.




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•Shea butter & vitamin E
•Smoothes on clear
•New smooth sphere precisely glides on to lips
•Twist-off top
•Gluten-free
•Paraben-free
•Petrolatum-free
•Phthalate-free


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Julys Diva of the Month

Hey Divas! I hope you all enjoyed your 4th of July weekend. I spent it with family did not really do much at all. Sometimes not doing much is good for you, especially for someone who is constantly busy. It's' good to have some down time for yourself.

As I have promised and mentioned, each month we will feature our Divas of the month. Since this is the first blog post about it, this month we only have one amazing women.

I personally know her and must say she is an outstanding strongwilled lady.

What is your full name: Vanessa Lee Reyes

Age: 27 years old

Date of Birth: 2/28/1983

Location: P.A

Hobbies: Poetry, Writing on my blog, making graphics for twitter, making crafts with my kids and cooking.

Dislikes: Haters, bad mothers, cheaters and childish mind games.

Your favorite word to use and why: "kismet" because it just means the best thing ever "meant to be".

A movie/book that has moved you: The Notebook

What do you have faith in: I am a Christian and I believe

that there is a God. Everything that happens in life happens

"upon his will".

- I would like to be recognized in Divas of the month because I am an avid blogger. I feel that with my insight and wisdom I will be able to give girls a different perspective into motherhood and the married life. I know what it is to be hurt, betrayed, cheated on and raped by a family member. I never chose this but I did choose to overcome it and not let it prevent me from prospering. I would like to help other victims and help young girls realize that there is always a positive to a negative that occurs in our lives. God Bless.

please make sure to catch Vanessa on twitter @dementedlee

&& on http://www.dementedlee.blogspot.com/

Are you a DIVA?

If you are interested or would like to refer another female to be nominated as DIVAS OF THE MONTH Please inquire within at divas_incharge@yahoo.com while also leaving a comment below stating that you are interested and have sent an email.

In the email please provide the following

• Your Full Name
• Age
• Date of Birth
• Location [just the state is quite fine]
• Picture
• Hobbies
• Dislikes
• Your favorite word to use and why
• A movie/book that has moved you
• What do you have faith in

Then please write a paragraph explaining why you feel that your should be nominated as one of our DIVAS OF THE MONTH. Or why the person you are referring should be nominated as one of our DIVAS OF THE MONTH. You can share a story or testimony. It's important to relate to the readers allow them to see you in a different light, highlight your positive artibutes. This is the time to shed light upon you or the lady you are nominating. This is your time to be of DIVAS IN SPOTLIGHT.

If you have been one of the two chosen for the DIVAS OF THE MONTH for that month we will alert you with an email. But remember whether you have been nominated this month or not we are all DIVAS IN CHARGE.

You will be featured on DIVAS IN CHARGE Blogsite and website.

Girls embrace your inner DIVA, work it!

-Cynthia [Head Diva]

CEO/FOUNDER OF DIVAS IN CHARGE