Mission Statement

D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE We are truly excited to announce a newly formulated Girls Organization by the name of D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE. The name came about through the creative minds of afterschool group leaders working at University Settlement. It sends a powerful message which is what we are intending to do, Dynamic Inspiring, Vibrant, Artistic Sisters. A sorority if you will, that will be given a place to all young ladies to call their own where they will be taught important virtues that they will need in life. We are giving young girls an option, better yet a right to take charge. To be in control of my life, to take charge and accept responsibility. Every young girl, every DIVA has a voice that needs to be heard. Our mission is to create a safe and nurturing space for young girls to own their own feelings as well as their experiences. Empowering the minds of young girls to take creative risks and create without fear of being judged. Our sole purpose is to teach all young ladies of The DIVAS In Charge Club the importance of being a girl in this world, how their very existence is an essential key to unlocking the doors to life. We will be speaking and partaking in group activities that touch on subjects such as peer-pressure, bullying, social media, body image, hygiene, and friendship, when to say NO etc. If you have any questions/concerns/thoughts please feel free to email me at: divas_incharge@yahoo.com Sincerely,

CEO/FOUNDER SPEAKING ABOUT DIVAS IN CHARGE


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Saturday, November 27, 2010

Foolish.



you changed my whole life



in bad and good


made me the happiest girl in the world


but took it all away in a second


how foolish of me , giving you all my heart


while your heart was somewhere else


should've listened should've known


that you was nothing good for me


now i'm gone you can regret ,


regret losing the best girl you ever had






-Ling Ling

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE WELCOME PARTY

I know I am a few days late but on October 4th 2010, it was the first day of D.I.V.A.S In Charge. We were Uber excited. As were the girls. Pictures were taken so they will be posted up later for you all to enjoy.

Monday, August 16, 2010

How to make a Vision Board !

A vision board, also called a dream board, is a collage of words and pictures depicting your dreams and goals usually specific to one aspect of your life. Vision boards have received a lot of acclaim lately because of the world-famous book, "The Secret." A vision board can set you on a path to achieving dreams and goals that may have previously eluded you. The key to a successful vision board is to post it in a place where you have to look at every day and it can serve as a constant reminder of what you are working toward.


Things You'll Need:
Magazines
Scissors
Glue
Tape
Markers
Cardboard or poster board

Instructions :

1.
Gather as many magazines as you can that you are comfortable destroying. Go through each magazine looking for pictures and words that are in line with your goals. This is a fun part of the creation of your vision board. Tear out all of the pictures or words that seem relevant and place them in a pile. Keep doing this until you have a very large pile of material to choose from.

2.
Take the pictures and words and start laying them out on your poster board or cardboard backing. Discard anything that may no longer fit or does not work. Move things around until they fit well and look right. This is also where you may want to organize your board. For instance, if you are working on your personal goals, you may place images of a house in one corner, money and credit cards in another corner, school or continuing education in another corner and then friends or hobbies in the last corner. Many people organize their boards by themes but there are others who like to place pictures all over the board rather than assigning corners. You may want to consider leaving some space to write words that you were not able to locate in the magazines and leaving a space in the center of the board.

3.
Start gluing and taping. Turn over each picture or word and add glue or tape to secure it in place. Once you have finished getting everything into place, you can use a marker to draw words or images that you feel are important to your vision board.


4.
Place your picture in the middle of the board and make certain that it is a picture where you are smiling and happy. This is because your smiling, happy picture will be in the center of all of your dreams and goals.


5.
Hang your vision board in a place where you will see it every day. This should be an area in your house where you spend a lot of time or are constantly walking through. Some great locations include the back of your bedroom door, a refrigerator or a bulletin board.Looking at the board every day will cause you to always be aware of your dreams and goals.

Build UP your confidence ....

It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.

1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.
It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.

1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.

2. Take inventory of your strengths.
Everybody's good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths.

Make a list of a few things you're good at and a few things you're interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a teacher you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you're good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.

3. Realize your limits.
Nobody's perfect -- not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. So if you weren't born a good singer, a super athlete or an "A" student, that's OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valuable -- even if you suck at basketball, have a big nose or look terrible in leggings.

4. Stop putting yourself down. Now!
One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals -- and feeling good about themselves -- is negative self-talk. In other words, telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want.

If you don't do well at a particular project or task, it doesn't mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren't prepared or the time simply wasn't right. It doesn't mean that you're a lousy human being or that you'll never succeed. It's OK to be upset for a bit when things don't go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You'll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.

5. Celebrate progress and small victories.
Did you pass your driver's test or give a killer speech despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit's due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.

6. Pat yourself on the back every day.
Find a few small things that you did well each day. Whether it's waking up on time, smiling at the dorky hall monitor or sending a card to your grandmother, a lot of good can be accomplished in one day -- and it's something to take pride in.

A Bond that NEVER breaks.

Friendship
by Trudy Starling


When you feel sad and betrayed
Who can you count on every single day?
When you feel lost and alone
Who will be there for you in every way?

When you've made mistakes and bad decisions
Who can you count on to tell you you're wrong?
When you feel you can't go on
Who will be there with a feel-better song?

Look into your heart and you will find
That person you can trust is not far away.
Look deep into yourself, don't give up,
For if you do, it's yourself you'll betray.

When you're looking for answers
To all your questions and dreams,
There is one person you can count on,
It's impossible, I know, it seems.

But take a few moments to look deeper inside.
Look into your heart and there you will see.
You'll be surprised when you find out
That you've been looking at ME.

Friendships ....Forever?

Here is a Poem that I can relate to lately ;and I think many of my divas can relate to also. It is a sad thing to lose a friend ; either if it is over a fight or if they move away. Enjoy it guys :)


Dance Upon The Wind.
by Intimate Knight

I wasn't looking for it, but some how it came, and found me.
Before I had a chance to react, it wrapped it's warmth around me.
Like a thief in the night, it has come and gone.
I have nothing, but that vision to reflect upon.

Until chance comes again, I'll let my thoughts dance upon the wind.
All day long, in my mind, I walk love's lonely street.
Like a tired man that longs to sit, but just can't find a seat.
Then, there it was again, up ahead, to light my way.

Only to vanish once more, just like all my yesterdays.
Until chance comes again, I'll let my thoughts dance upon the wind.
I don't know where I'm going, and where I've been isn't much to speak of.
I just know my heart is always showing, leading me to some far off love.

Just when I give up the fight.
Here it comes to make the bad things good, and the wrong things right.
Only to leave me lost and lonely again.
Drifting away as my thoughts dance upon the wind.

It has a name, I think they call it friend.

Friday, August 13, 2010

Best-Friends

Growing up as young boys and girls we say everyone in our class is our best friend. Our next door neighbhor is our best friend. But as children we don't know any better. We're innocent and don't see the evils of the world. How we view things are completely different than adults.



Now as you grow older, your experiences with friends and best-friends changes. You no longer have the group of girls you used to hang out with everyday at school coming over for sleep overs and manicures. Where are they now?


I have had my share of best-friends and fall outs with them. But what I can say is this, there is no perfect best-friend. We all mess up and make mistakes. But that is all apart of human nature. Nothing makes us more Christ-like than to forgive others. Now I will admit I have a hard time forgiving. I guess it is because of things I have dealt with in my past. That does not make it right though. Holding grudges is something I will continue to work on, it is in no way healthy.


Now I have a handful of Best-Friends. There will be periods of times where we do not talk for a while. And then there will be times when we see eachother basically everyday. All for different reasons. We're adults now so our lives become busy with responsibilities and other things. Yes we argue and fight but what set of best-friends don't. If you do not argue with your best-friend there is something really wrong there. Is that friendship genuine? You won't always see eye to eye on certain matters. We're going to slip up. And we're going to have tit-for-tats. But when you are able to talk it out, get past it and laugh/joke about it. That is a TRUE friendship. Being able to over-come obstacles together. Forgiving and loving eachother flaws and all. I mean who wants a PERFECT best-friend? Not me, that would be so boring. Each friendship should be unique and different.


That is what I cherish about my friendships, despite the arguing. I appreciate the diversity and uniqueness of that individual. I would not want them to change for anything in the world because then they would not be the friend that I love and adore. I know I can depend on them even if they make mistakes and I hope they can depend on me even if I make mistakes. Because at the end of the day we are only human. I love you all.
Pain in the butts and all.


Thursday, July 22, 2010

A moment with God.





Riding to the airport to pick up my aunt, looking out the window this is what I see. I had to rush look for a camera  since I could not find my personal camera I had to result to my blackberry curve. But a camera on my blackberry I must say the quality of the photo taken is remarkable. Just look at the contrast and the lighting. It's perfect. Kismet; it was meant to be. And I swear I saw God right at this moment. The warm breeze flowing threw my short short pixie hair cut and the rays of the sun that was setting kissing my face. It was a beautiful moment. A moment with God.

Lil' Divas of the Month

                               *Gabby is the one dressed like Snow White, such a cute lil' disney princess she is.




A special Happy Birthday shoutout to a lil'divas member. Gabby! My little cousin who turned 7 years old today. Happy Birthday Cheesey Feet I love you.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Bucket List 2010-2011

So there are alot of things I want to get done from the rest of this year to next. I decided to make a bucket list. List all the things I want to accomplish or try. I mean seriously because life is so short and our time here on earth is never promised. I always say that and will continue to say that. Despite lifes trials and tribulations there is always sunshine after the storm. I refuse to speak negative out into the universe only positive. Life should be enjoyed as much as possible. Spending my vacation here with my family in Florida has helped me to realize the importance of building a relationship with them. Family is important, they are my backbone. Being over has also helped me to realize to stop stressing so much. Your always going to have an issue in life, your always going to have bills, your always going to have a moment where things seem tough but you got to smile, let go and let God and enjoy life. 
So here below I create my Bucket List.

  1. excercise every other day early morning
  2. make sure to have a balanced breakfast
  3. lose a total of 40 pounds and keep it off
  4. write at least 3 blog entries every week
  5. try to eat talapia fish *gags* lol
  6. start a scrapbook
  7. write a book
  8. go a whole day with out saying "oh em gee"
  9. re-do my bedroom
  10. purchase a new laptop
  11. every week purchase a new M.A.C product and write a review
  12. read 20 books
  13. read the entire bible
  14. practice my spanish
  15. host a charity ball 
  16. be in a theater show
  17. begin Revolution Ladies Night again
  18. weekend getaway trip
  19. learn to cook a live lobster (o_0)
  20. learn to dance the hustle
  21. finish my web-based girls organization
  22. finish my clothing line launch it
  23. take dance classes
  24. finish my Associates Degree in Human Services
  25. take family portraits
  26. do a random act of kindness every day
  27. donate clothes to The Salvation Army
  28. Food Drive
  29. Help the Elderly
  30. Start my own garden
  31. Volunteer at a Hospital
  32. go on another cruise
  33. go camping
  34. apologize to someone I may have hurt
  35. forgive those who have wronged me
  36. more prayer time
  37. get over my fear of the dark
  38. try to help someones wish come true
  39. go to the beach at night and watch the sunrise
  40. get my permit/liscense
  41.  
     -Eventually I will continue to add more on my list with time
    What is your Bucket List?

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Four Different Types of Abuse

                                      HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE

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As I have shared several times depending on how comfortable I feel, I am a survivor (not a victim) of abuse.  To simply place or identify myself as a victim I am giving my attacker the upper-hand and power of my life. I am a Revolutionary Lady a member of Divas in Charge member.  I take control of my life, I control my destiny. I am a survivor of sexual, emotional and physical abuse. Many times the first thing people ask if it was by my father. And I answer "Hell to the No!" because my father was/is a fantastic man. Never did he mistreat me at one point in my life, I owe him everything. Everything he has done has been for his family, he is a self-less man that puts his children and wife first (before God). But I will say it was done by a family member, someone my family knew and by an ex boyfriend. I can be bitter and angry every time I look back and resent men as well as life. But....I do not. I went threw that for a reason. And I strongly and truely believe deep down in my heart it was to help other girls/women cope and get threw their situations. Its one thing to sit down and speak with a therapist , personally I don't always feel it helps. I mean do you really think they have gone threw what you went threw and have all that wisdom? Wisdom is having knowledge and life experience. Not everyone has life experience. But since I have gone threw it I can better relate to those currently dealing with abuse and trying to over come it.  

Abuse does not discriminate against anyone; race,color of your skin, age, sexual preference, religion, political views etc. Anyone can be a target.

There are FOUR different types of Abuse.
  1. Neglect
  2. Physical Abuse
  3. Sexual Abuse
  4. Emotional Abuse 

  • Neglect-Is the most common and frequent case of abuse that is often seen.  Some research claims children are more likely to be neglected if they're poor because parents are preoccupied with survival – but wealthy families definitely can and do neglect their kids. Neglect occurs when parents or guardians don't provide food, shelter, safety, supervision, clothes, education, attention, or medical treatment – often it's about what they don't do. This is an abusive relationship.

  • Physical abuse-can be the easiest of all four types of abuse to spot because the clues can be obvious when someone hits, slaps, beats, burns, kicks, or stabs you. However, there may not be evidence when someone grabs your arm, shakes you, or pushes you around – but that's definitely physical abuse. Abusive relationships can be easy to recognize.

  • Sexual abuse-is any form of touching, intercourse, or exploitation of your body. This includes taking pictures you for sexual purposes, asking you to touch someone else's private parts, and making sexual references to your body. Being forced to touch or have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend against your will is sexual abuse. Abusive relationships can make you feel ashamed.

  •  Emotional abuse-is when someone threatens or humiliates you. This includes calling you names, putting you down, insulting you, or breaking your things. Control is a huge part of emotional abuse and involves chronic anger, jealousy, accusations, and distrust. This type of abuse is the hardest to spot because the injuries aren't physical or immediately visible. Emotional abuse can be mistaken for passionate or intense love. Abusive relationships don't always involve physical violence.

11 warning signs of emotional abuse:

  1. Constant phone calls, text-messages, e-mails, IMs, etc. to check up on you (harrassment)
  2. Extreme jealousy when you talk to or spend time with other people
  3. Name-calling or putting you down, either when you're alone or with other people.
  4. Behavior that you have to apologize or make excuses for.
  5. Statements like, "I can't live without you. If you leave me, I'll kill myself."
  6. You feel depressed, anxious, and unhappy in your relationship.
  7. You're scared to upset or make your partner angry.
  8. You've seen your partner hurt or talk down to other people.
  9. You're down on yourself, or even hate yourself, especially when you're together.
  10. You lie about the bruises or cuts you have.
  11. You don't spend as much time with your friends, and you feel isolated.


    Abuse is never okay, there is no excuse for it what so ever. Do not blame yourself. People have choices and are in control of their own actions. So to tell yourself that it is your fault he/she is abusing you please get that out of your head now. It is not. there are other methods that can be used to deal with anger issues. I used to blame myself. And come up with as many excuses as possible to justify his aggression. If you are in this situation or know someone in this situation. Staying quiet and not doing anything about it is the worst crime. Because the question that pops up is "What if" or "If I had only..." You do not want to wait until it is too late. You can not erase what has been done. So it is better to act now, risking the person hating you than to risk either your life or a friends life. Like in the NYC Transit Subways "See Something, Say Something". You are never alone to, just remember that. 

Links to read about Abuse
http://abuse.suite101.com/article.cfm/the-different-types-of-abuse
http://abuse.suite101.com/article.cfm/signs_of_an_abusive_relationship
http://teen-health.suite101.com/article.cfm/warning-signs-that-a-daughter-has-an-abusive-boyfriend

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This link provides everything you need to know:

http://www.mjbovo.com/AbuseLinks.htm


Thursday, July 15, 2010

Choices

We all come to a point in our lives when we are confronted with a situation. A situation that requires us to make choices. Something that I was taught and taught the children I work with in return. Life is all about making choices. Commonly as humans we make the mistake in being impulsive, making a decision with out putting further thought into it. Eventually the fate of our decision may be something measuring of good or of bad. I am sure we can all say we have made some pretty bad choices, some pretty hard choices, some pretty easy choices and the list can go on. A choice can be extremely difficult, it can either make or break something or someone. But the beauty of being presented with choices is that we have the freedom, we have the freewill to choose and to make a choice. Wouldn't it be horrible to have someone control everything for us, to control our mind frame, ways of thinking and decision making? Choices, they can be good they can be bad. But regardless of what the choice is , it will leave a great impact in our lives. But if I can give you a word of advice, from my experience's in life, it is best to think before you act. Think before you speak, think before you make an irrational decision. Do not be quick to be impulsive, it never has a positive result.
-HEAD DIVA
Cynthia

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