Individuality is Key

As a 21 year old woman,I look back at the times when I was 10 years old.The age when I was told I'd come in to myself, and my acne would go away and my baby fat would transform in to curves that I'll embrace at the age I am today. Half of the things were true..and some wasn't. I went through a stage where I was different from the other girls. I was into makeup before everyone and my breast were growing at a young age...I dyed my hair blue, I listened to pop when everyone was listening to rap.Class mates asked me "Why are you listening to that kind of music..your not white!" The annoying questions just kept on and on and it was so ignorant, "why do you wear makeup?", Why do you do your hair like that?" I just wanted to shout "Why the F do you give a sh*t what I'm wearing or what I'm listening to?!" It made me angry because I refused to be like everyone else, and everybody had a problem with it. So at times I would be sad because I loved who I was..I just didn't understand why people wouldn't accept it.One day this girl that I considered a friendly acquaintance asked me "why are you always wearing such bright colors?" and I looked her in her eye and I said "Because I like it, because I want to, I dress for me, not anyone else" and you know what she told me? "I wish I can do that" That's when I realize that people weren't judging me because they didn't like me, they were just mad because I was an individual, I was myself, and people noticed me,while everyone else just faded into the background.

21 years old and I still have my insecurities but I am happy with who I am and I embrace my imperfections because believe me when I say..no one is perfect..but the same way everyone has imperfections ,everyone has something beautiful about them,inside and out.

-Samantha Shines <3

Foolish.

you changed my whole life



in bad and good


made me the happiest girl in the world


but took it all away in a second


how foolish of me , giving you all my heart


while your heart was somewhere else


should've listened should've known


that you was nothing good for me


now i'm gone you can regret ,


regret losing the best girl you ever had






-Ling Ling

D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE PARTY

D.I.V.A.S IN CHARGE WELCOME PARTY

I know I am a few days late but on October 4th 2010, it was the first day of D.I.V.A.S In Charge. We were Uber excited. As were the girls. Pictures were taken so they will be posted up later for you all to enjoy.

Girls Just want to Have Fun + Stally

How to make a Vision Board !

A vision board, also called a dream board, is a collage of words and pictures depicting your dreams and goals usually specific to one aspect of your life. Vision boards have received a lot of acclaim lately because of the world-famous book, "The Secret." A vision board can set you on a path to achieving dreams and goals that may have previously eluded you. The key to a successful vision board is to post it in a place where you have to look at every day and it can serve as a constant reminder of what you are working toward.


Things You'll Need:
Magazines
Scissors
Glue
Tape
Markers
Cardboard or poster board

Instructions :

1.
Gather as many magazines as you can that you are comfortable destroying. Go through each magazine looking for pictures and words that are in line with your goals. This is a fun part of the creation of your vision board. Tear out all of the pictures or words that seem relevant and place them in a pile. Keep doing this until you have a very large pile of material to choose from.

2.
Take the pictures and words and start laying them out on your poster board or cardboard backing. Discard anything that may no longer fit or does not work. Move things around until they fit well and look right. This is also where you may want to organize your board. For instance, if you are working on your personal goals, you may place images of a house in one corner, money and credit cards in another corner, school or continuing education in another corner and then friends or hobbies in the last corner. Many people organize their boards by themes but there are others who like to place pictures all over the board rather than assigning corners. You may want to consider leaving some space to write words that you were not able to locate in the magazines and leaving a space in the center of the board.

3.
Start gluing and taping. Turn over each picture or word and add glue or tape to secure it in place. Once you have finished getting everything into place, you can use a marker to draw words or images that you feel are important to your vision board.


4.
Place your picture in the middle of the board and make certain that it is a picture where you are smiling and happy. This is because your smiling, happy picture will be in the center of all of your dreams and goals.


5.
Hang your vision board in a place where you will see it every day. This should be an area in your house where you spend a lot of time or are constantly walking through. Some great locations include the back of your bedroom door, a refrigerator or a bulletin board.Looking at the board every day will cause you to always be aware of your dreams and goals.

Build UP your confidence ....

It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.

1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.
It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.

1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.

2. Take inventory of your strengths.
Everybody's good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths.

Make a list of a few things you're good at and a few things you're interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a teacher you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you're good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.

3. Realize your limits.
Nobody's perfect -- not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. So if you weren't born a good singer, a super athlete or an "A" student, that's OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valuable -- even if you suck at basketball, have a big nose or look terrible in leggings.

4. Stop putting yourself down. Now!
One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals -- and feeling good about themselves -- is negative self-talk. In other words, telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want.

If you don't do well at a particular project or task, it doesn't mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren't prepared or the time simply wasn't right. It doesn't mean that you're a lousy human being or that you'll never succeed. It's OK to be upset for a bit when things don't go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You'll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.

5. Celebrate progress and small victories.
Did you pass your driver's test or give a killer speech despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit's due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.

6. Pat yourself on the back every day.
Find a few small things that you did well each day. Whether it's waking up on time, smiling at the dorky hall monitor or sending a card to your grandmother, a lot of good can be accomplished in one day -- and it's something to take pride in.